On behalf of Cobert, Haber & Haber Attorneys at Law posted in Divorce on Friday, May 5, 2017.
Divorce can be a very scary and unsettling process for many people in New York. Not only do they have to separate their lives from their partners, but they also have to establish themselves and change their way of thinking. They may welcome these changes with open arms, but the stress that often comes with them and fear of the unknown can be hard to tolerate, states PsychologyToday.com.
When people let their stress, frustrations and emotions take control, they could end hurting their outcomes. It is imperative for people who are separating from their spouses to learn effective ways to manage their stress to make their situations easier to manage.
Stop playing the blame game
Many people harbor bad feelings for their spouses and often hold on to those emotions. Those feelings can lead to them blaming their former partners for what they perceive are the reasons their relationships are over. Blaming their spouses may make them feel good in the short-term, but in the long run, those negative emotions can manifest as stress, anger, depression and affect their physical health. People who are divorcing their spouses should forgive themselves and their partners, and realize that their situations are making it possible for them to move on to better things.
Improve personal finances
Along with divorce comes the separation of finances. According to U.S. News & World Report, divorces can be very financially devastating for some people. Individuals should start working towards improving their personal finances immediately instead of waiting until their separations are final. They should review the tax implications of all potential settlements before agreeing to any, establish their own financial accounts and create a new budget that reflects their post-divorce finances to ease their transitions and eliminate stress.
The uncertainty and timing of divorce do not always make things easy. But people who prepare financially while working to improve themselves can minimize the effects of divorce-induced stress on their lives.